Sweet and salty, black and white, we know these combinations. These seemingly opposing forces oddly work together. Black never looks quite as dark and imposing as when next to a bright white, nor does salt ever taste quite so amazing as when it is sprinkled atop some caramel. These opposites work because they actually are quite similar. Sweetness and saltiness both are strong flavors that use to enhance other flavors. Black and white are both extremes of color, one being all colors and the other a complete lack of colors (this can go either way depending if we are talking about pigments or light). They would not work quite as well if they were 100% different. It is the duality within the similarity that makes opposing combinations so strong.
I like to think about this often when in the kitchen. If I am going to use a strong, spicy spice like cayenne, I often throw in a dash of cinnamon. The mixture of these two creates a swirl of exciting confusion when you lift the spoon to your awaiting tastebuds. This duality, this yin and yang you may say, is an important element in life. Especially in friendships. Sure you don't want to be friends with people completely opposite you in every way, but I think it is important to have differences that can be used to enhance each other.
I have this one friend, well more like cousin, who is pretty cool. Her name is Banjo. Yes, like the instrument. She is an amazing, talented, beautiful, strong, independent, hilarious young woman. Banjo and I have this habit of always being exactly the same but in completely different ways. We often show up to dinner or church wearing the same outfit but in completely different styles. I might be wearing a white lace dress, brown ankle boots, and flowers in my hair while she wears a black lace dress, doc martins, and a chain necklace. We are the same, but different. More than the way we dress, our personalities are very similar but very different. We both have similar strengths (ie. humor, talking, listening, leading) but we go about each one in very different manners. Example, we both enjoy theatre, but I am the backstage, writing in the corner type while she stands in the bright lights belting her heart out to loud applause. This allows us to lift each other up and, like spices, enhance each other. We are kind of like a clown fish and sea anemones with our symbiotic-ness.
Are there salts to your sweet in your life? Can you be someone's cayenne? Who can you lift up simply by being yourself?